Ever known one of those people that instigates an argument, sometimes just for the sake of having an argument? Then, when someone responds to their comments, regardless of the actual tone or wording (or whether they're even directed at them) the original person gets all huffy and freaks out?
I feel badly for those people. It must be difficult going through life being so angry, so emotionally volatile, so paranoid and suspicious of everyone else's intentions. I think those people must be very uncomfortable within themselves on some level, don't you think?
When I first discovered the internet 10 yeaars ago, my introduction to the web was Yahoo Chat. Beer and Wine #1 actually. I was amazed at the speed with which one could make "friends" in there. Hell, I made some damn good friends in there. Kinz, Jason, Dawn, Kelly, Kelly (another one) and her husband Bruce, Bev, man I still miss Bev, and Joanie, haha Joanie and Sparky, man they were a hoot too... There were a lot of others too... Scott and I would sit for hours and chat with them, getting silly, getting stupid, usually getting more than a little tipsy. We talked to them offline too, on the phone, and some of them we met offline. A one night party at Joanies, a weekend party in Atlanta with Kinz and a bunch of others. Some of them were really good friends, much more than chat buddies or mere aquaintances.
By the same token, I saw a lot of people that started out as really good friends who ended up ripping each other's throats out because one person would say something that would be misinterpreted, someone else would get huffy and snippity and paranoid, and shit would spiral from there. It sucked. I lost some friends that way, came to dislike, pity, and avoid certain instigating types because of these sorts of situations. Life is too short people, wouldn't you agree?
So. What the hell am I on about anyway? I don't know. I was having a conversation with a friend last night about choosing who to spend your time with, and who not to waste your time on. My mind has been on a 24 hour tangent on the subject. I've made some lousy choices - on line and off. But right now, I'm surrounded by this crowd of people, online and off, that I wouldn't change a bit if I had to. It feels good. Thanks. I am a lucky woman!