Monday, April 17, 2006

bitchfest

Rainy Days and Mondays...

Today was both, in the worst sense of the phrase. First, we received a phone call from the funeral home to come up and sign a new contract because the fellow who usually does the contracts was out of town when we were planning the funeral... We knew we'd have to do this, but I just didn't want to go back there, if you know what I mean. So I the appointment to go in at 3:30 to do that, and took some clothes out of the dryer, to start the next load.

Well, when I turned it on, it just growled at me and refused to function. We had an element replaced in it about a year ago, and it appears that the guy who did that failed to re-install a rather important grommet. It's been squeaky lately, but we didn't think much of it. Apparently, the squeak was because the drum was off-kilter because of the missing grommet. Now the hole where the grommet belongs is oblong, notched out, and chewed to hell and twice the size it should be. There's no fixing it.. Well, we could fix it, but it would cost as much, if not more, than just replacing it. It served us well for the last 8 years, but it was one of those super-sized dryers that held like 2 loads at a time with no problem. I'm going to miss it.

OK, so we head out the door to the funeral home at 3 and the storms they had been promising hit. You know, the type of torrential rainstorm that completely obstructs your view beyond the windshield, complete with 80mph gusts of wind, thunder and lightning. Of course, there's no drive through in the funeral home, so we arrived outside his office drenched to the bone. We shook off like the couple of ratty dogs we are and went in... to be told that we owed $538.00 more than we'd previously thought.

We signed the papers (what are you going to do, refuse to pay it? Dispute the charges? It's our son's funeral arrangements!) and headed back into the waterlogged outdoors... Of course, the only way for me to get back into the van was through an ankle deep puddle just outside the passenger door.

Then had to stop at the grocery store for an integral dinner ingredient - repeat the above shower, twice. Then come home and read today's mail - including a bill for over $7500.00 that is supposed to be paid by the insurance, but was apparently denied... No way to know anything for sure, because our mail arrives after all business offices close.

In between and around and through all of this, we're trying to figure the logistics of a mid-week trip to New York for Randy's wake on Wednesday night, and funeral on Thursday. I do not in any way relish 14 hours in a van with 5 children, particularly Terra... God help us. And the concept of the funeral itself intimidates me, I'll probably cry more there than I did at Nova's - for Scott mostly, who lost his son and his baby brother in less than 2 weeks, and for Randy's wife too, and that baby girl that just lost her Daddy, and for Scott's mother too, who just lost her youngest son...

And this concludes my bitchfest for Monday, April 17th.

6 comments:

  1. Hi Erin,

    I know you slightly, from posting at Versifier (I post as justagirltoo). I didn't know of your loss until a friend pointed me in this direction.
    I'm so very sorry. I know there must be nothing that can comfort you much for such a loss, but know that others are thinking of you and trying to send some small comfort your way.
    I stopped by here just to let you know that I wrote, or attempted to write, a little poem in tribute to your son's life. I didn't feel I knew you well enough to leave it here, but it's on Cafe Cafe blog.

    I'm leaving this message for you so that you can either go see it if you want, or NOT go see it or come across it accidently, if you don't want to see it.

    My prayers are with you. Be gentle with yourself.

    moon

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  2. Don't forget to show yourself some compassion.

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  3. You, of all people, are most certainly allowed a bitchfest. You know, if you really need to vent, you can talk my ear off. :-)

    Love you, E. hugs and kisses to the family.

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  4. Moon~
    Thank you so very much for the poem. It was beautiful. There's no need to worry about me not wanting to read/see it. I love to find anything, any evidence of how Nova marked this world.

    Michael~
    You're a smart one you know? I think that's been the hardest part of this. I'm great at being there for everyone else, and neglecting my own needs.

    If only there were another me around to take care of me! ;)

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  5. Mary~
    lol, simulpost! I am not normally bitchy (not in public anyway!) But today, man! I guess I just reached that point, you now, the one where you blurt cuss words like a Tourette's patient and people near you run or duck. Yeah... ugh. I'm feeling better since a shower, the poem by Moon, and a few hours to digest.

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  6. heh...great minds think alike, I think...lol You know we're just good like that!!

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