Having a child (or 2) die makes things complicated on so many levels.
I just got an email from Scott's sister. She wants to have a t-shirt printed for their mom for mother's day with all the grandkids' names printed on it. I have burdened my children with oddly spelled names, and she wanted to make sure she spells them right on the shirt - so she asked for the spelling of their names.
No problem, except that I don't know whether to send 5 kids' names, or 7. If I send 5, then I feel like I've failed to acknowledge Alexis and Nova - plus if she wants to add their names, now she has to write back and ask for them specifically, which is bound to be uncomfortable. If I list all 7, then I feel like I'll make her feel obligated to add them, which is, again, an uncomfortable situation. I don't know how to reply.
How many children do I have? Am I still Alexis and Nova's Mommy?